Black Women Have It Going On

Good morning from Colorado, where the peaks are tall and the healing is real! Today is Friday, May 8th, and my faith is secured in Christ Jesus! Thanks for stopping by my blog as we reach a milestone on this long walk toward wholeness.

We have spent this week celebrating my brother Butch—his “stadium-sized” smile, his “no-fear” skateboarding, and the “alpha” energy that defined our childhood. But as we reach this first milestone in May, I have to be honest with you: writing these posts has been more than just an exercise in memory. It has been a desperate act of faith. For decades, I was “emotionally bleeding” all over my life. I was going through the motions, fighting to survive while a part of me remained tucked away in a dark, painful corner of the past.

As a family historian, I’ve realized that simply “collecting” the past isn’t enough. You have to process it. Before I started this series, I felt like the woman in the Gospels who had suffered for twelve years and spent everything she had, yet only grew worse. That was me—bleeding out from the loss of my “other half” and finding no reason to fight on. But through these words, I have been reaching out. Every post has been like touching the hem of Christ’s garment. I’m not just sharing stories; I’m reaching for the only Power that can make me whole.

The “First Milestone” isn’t just about Butch’s 61st birthday or his 27 years of life. It’s about the moment the bleeding stops. By giving voice to his “stadium lights” and acknowledging the “cracks” we fell through, the virtue of God’s healing has begun to flow. I am no longer just “going through the motions.” I am standing up, looking at the history of my brother, and realizing that while he was my mother’s “everything” and my best friend, his story—and mine—is ultimately held in the hands of the Great Physician.

The Takeaway for Us

• The Hem of Healing: One realizes that “going through the motions” is not the same as living. True wholeness begins when we stop trying to fix our own wounds and reach for the divine “hem” of grace that can stop the emotional bleeding of decades.
• The Purpose of the Milestone: Milestones are not just markers of how far we’ve come, but reminders of why we are walking. Sharing a legacy is a tool for restoration; as we honor the dead, we find the strength to truly live.
• Historian’s Restoration: A family historian learns that the “archives” of the heart can be heavy. However, when we bring those records into the light of faith, they cease to be a burden and become a testimony of resurrection.

Community Challenge

Are you currently “going through the motions” while hiding a wound that won’t stop bleeding? This week, I challenge you to find your “hem of the garment” moment. Whether it’s through writing, prayer, or a difficult conversation, reach out for the healing you’ve been putting off. What is the one thing you need to “touch” to feel whole again?

Scripture & Prayer

• Scripture: “For she said, If I may touch but his clothes, I shall be whole. And straightway the fountain of her blood was dried up…” — Mark 5:28-29 (KJV)
• Prayer: Father, we thank You for the power of Your touch. We lift up those who have been “emotionally bleeding” for years, surviving on nothing but the motions. We thank You for the milestone of this week and for the healing that comes when we speak the names of those we’ve lost. Make us whole, Lord, as we continue this walk. Amen.

The Spiritual Seal

Remember: You were not meant to live in a state of “survival.” The crowd may be pressing in, but your reach for the Savior is what changes the story. The bleeding has stopped, the “stadium lights” are on, and your walk toward healing has officially begun. See you on Monday!