Black Women Have It Going On

Good morning from Colorado, where the peaks are tall and the truth sets us free! Today is Thursday, May 28th, and my faith is secured in Christ Jesus! Thanks for stopping by my blog as we look at “The Big Sister’s Restoration.”

For decades, the role of “Big Sister” felt like a heavy, broken thing. I carried the guilt of my move to Arkansas, feeling like I had left my brother exposed to a storm I was supposed to navigate for him. But recently, a shift occurred. Looking back to three years ago when I was working on my mother’s house, I remember feeling Butch and Mom present with me for the first time in ages. In those quiet moments in that house, I realized that my role as his protector didn’t end when I left for Arkansas, and it didn’t end when he passed. It was simply waiting for me to be strong enough to pick it up again.

I am taking my power back by refusing to let his story be told by people with “hearts of concrete.” I am no longer that people-pleasing girl who would eat an elephant whole just to satisfy a therapist or a toxic relative. I am carving this history into pieces and digesting the truth so it can no longer hurt me or my children. By naming my first enemy and speaking on the “horrid days,” I am providing the shield Butch never had.

But I’m taking back more than just a role; I’m taking back my place in this family. Whether I am respected, loved, or understood by the rest of them doesn’t change the fact that I belong to this maternal line. It was the family introduced to me, and I am a part of it by right. My husband’s emotional breakthrough and the peace I felt while finishing that house are proof that when one person stands in their truth, the whole family tree has to acknowledge the light. I am no longer waving a magic wand; I am wielding the Truth of my existence.

The Takeaway for Us

1. The Right to Belong: One’s place in a family is not earned by silence or “fitting in.” You are a part of your history because you were born into it, and you have the right to occupy that space with your full truth.
2. The Power of Presence: Reclaiming your role can happen years after a specific event. Whether it was three years ago or thirty, the moment you decide to own your story is the moment the “Iron Fists” lose their power.
3. Restoring the Alpha: Reclaiming your strength is the greatest tribute you can give to a sibling who lost theirs. When you stop being “subservient” to the lies, you honor the spirit of the one who was forced to stay in the shadows.

Community Challenge

Is there a family circle you’ve pulled away from because you didn’t feel “understood”? This week, readers are challenged to reclaim their seat at the table—not for the family’s sake, but for their own. How does it feel to say, “I belong here,” even if they aren’t ready to hear your story?

Scripture & Prayer

• Scripture: “And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten…” — Joel 2:25 (KJV)
• Prayer: Father, prayer is offered for those standing in the truth of their own family lines. We thank You for the restoration of the Big Sister’s heart and for the courage to occupy the space You gave us. Amen.

The Spiritual Seal

Remember: One must realize that belonging is a birthright, not a popularity contest. A sibling’s honesty is the fire that purifies the entire family tree, from the roots to the highest branch. The Big Sister is back, and she is taking her rightful place. See you tomorrow!