Aren’t You Tired of Having People Walking All Over You?

2-16-20 OneI wrote this post in 2014!  Sadly, it never made it to the light of day.  I wonder why I never publish it? Oh, well, the Universe unearth it when it was needed.  Let me be thankful for that!

I For days I have been searching for my book titled “Boundaries.”  With it being misplaced I felt like I had lost a dear and devoted friend.  My life seemed as if it was getting off course and I needed sound advice that I could trust.  I needed reassurance that it was okay to live life with boundaries despite what others thought of me.

So, today, as I began cleaning off my desk guess what I found?  My book!  Yeah!  I found my book!  And now that I have found one of my spiritual lifelines I want to share a snippet of its content:

Boundary Development

Remember the old saying, “insanity is genetic.  You inherit it from your kids”?  Well, boundaries aren’t inherited.  They are built.  To be the truth-telling, responsible, free, and loving people God wants us to be we need to learn limits from childhood on.  Boundary development is an ongoing process, yet its most crucial stages are in our very early years, where our character is formed.

I was never taught to have boundaries.  As a matter of fact, I was taught it was wrong to have them.  Therefore, I became a doormat for everybody to step on.  And more times than not, they cleaned their nasty dirty feet on my soul.  Their cold and calculated actions showed each refused to acknowledge I was part of the human race.  And, sadly, I must write I believed them!  And when I put boundaries in place to keep people, messy people, on their side of life, I was told I was mean.  The comment would cut me to the bone and blind me from seeing I was being manipulated.

Healthy and strong boundaries are set when you know your truth.

Day 2: No Social Media

Yesterday the struggle was real!  OMG!  I can not believe I was having withdrawals from being on Facebook.  Today is a little better but I still have urges to log into my social media account to see what is currently happening in my friends, family, loved ones and the world.  But!  I’m not going to give into my desire.  Instead, I’m committing to cleaning my kitchen and eradicating my emotions from the baggage of others.

How You Made Them FeelAs God would have it I was faced with choices concerning my torn relationship with my grand daughter.  She sees me as a negative in her life and never a friend or a person that cares deeply for her and her outcome.  My truth telling has hurt her beyond her ability to see logic.  As a result, she tell private things about me in order to gain some type of satisfaction in shaming me before others.  As if shaming me will fix what really ills her soul.  Well any who how . . . . She has drawn her line in the sand and set her boundaries.  They are loud and clear.  I must and will respect them.  With that stated, I don’t think she realize once she made her choices her decisions created choices for me.

I wish her well.  At the moment their can never be a point return.  Sometimes you must cut the cancer out in order for the body to survive.