You need to claim the events of your life to make yourself yours. When you truly possess all you have been and done, which may take same time, you are fierce with reality. –Florida Pier Scott-Maxwell
It takes a long time to understand the difference between letting go and moving on, especially if you try to bypass the transitions following life-altering change. Most women believe we can avoid transitions by becoming very busy. “Waiting, done at really high speeds, will frequently look like something else,” observes Carrie Fisher hopefully. Its’ called multitasking. How often do we use the congestion and sheer occupation of our days to anesthetize ourselves against emotion, thought, and action? When I make myself busy and permit the activities swirling around me to grab my attention, I tell myself over and over that I can’t think today about the choices I should be making or mourn what my heart is begging my brain to remember. Call it the Scarlett Syndrome. I’ll think about that tomorrow. I’ll grieve over that tomorrow. After all, tomorrow is another day. “Life must go on,” Edna St. Vincent Millay Wrote, “I forget just why.”
We are not human beings trying to be spiritual. We are spiritual beings trying to be human. ~ Jacquelyn Small
Whether women were human fascinated the English writer D. H. Lawrence, who often explored this conundrum in his work. “Man is willing to accept women as an equal, as a man in skirts, as an angel, a devil, a baby face, a machine, an instrument, a bosom, a womb, a pair of legs, a servant, and encyclopedia, and ideal or an obscenity; the one thing he won’t accept her as is a human being, a real human being of the feminine sex.”
Perhaps the reason men find it so difficult to accept women as human beings is because we’re not, and deep down everyone knows it. But often women forget their Divinity as they go about their daily round. How often do we excuse ourselves with the expression, “well, I’m only human.”
No, you’re not, and neither am I. We forget we’re spiritual beings appearing for a brief span on this planet as humans. I certainly forgot that this morning when my daughter stayed home from school because she’s sick. Again. In a little while, I’ll have to take her to the doctor for a strep test and my entire work day will have been disrupted. I’m frustrated and angry; not at Katie—at real life, at deadlines. But did she realize that, when I rolled my eyes at the thought of another day gone awry? I don’t think so.
Spiritual beings do not sweat real life’s small stuff. They also know that most of what drives us crazy in real life is small stuff. The only thing that isn’t small stuff is the reason you’re on earth in the first place: to find that portion of the world’s lost heart that only you can ransom with your love and authentic gifts and then return it, so that all of us can experience Wholeness.
A spiritual being knows that the work will be waiting for her when she gets back from the doctor’s office. A spiritual being knows that there is no such thing as a deadline. Deadlines are chronos, the world’s time; Divinity knows only kairos, Eternity. The being knows that the only thing that’s not small stuff today is caring fro and comforting a sick child.
This spiritual being might have also known that this morning if she’d taken five minutes to center herself.
Scripture tells us that men were created a little above the angels. But don’t ever forget that women were the climax of the Spirit’s creativity cycle. After woman was created, Wisdom realized there was no need to proceed further: this superior being would save the world.
Big things are expected of us.
As for me, there’s a lost heart that needs to be ransomed by a spiritual being trying to be human.