Evil is As Evil Does

Mean Spirited People

They’re born everyday!  They walk among us and they seek who the can destroy.  They spiritually feed off misery and the ignorance of others becomes their playground.

Some believe such people come from homes where there is no love and or where hate is taught.  But that is not true!  Mean-spirited people come from all walks of life.  They are born to every race and every gender; and prejudice of any kind makes it harder to discover such people.   For example, I learned in the circle I once traveled that all whites were bad, most if not all white men molested children, white people smell, white people have no color, white people are from the devil, and finally “all white people are rich”.  And even though I know better now by understanding people are people, there are still people (white, black, blue, purple and brown) that buy into racial nonsense.  And that’s the reason I’m blogging about mean people coming from all walks of life.  And had it not been for my encounter this past weekend, as a black woman, with a mean-spirited white man I know I would have not come up with such a blog post; because, like I stated, had I not known about the evils of humanity or understood mean-spirited people I could see where the confrontation could have gotten out of control.

The Simple Truth Is

We are all fearfully and wonderfully made.  We all have the ability to be bad. We all can become sexually deviant.  We all have the capability to smell when we forego bathing.  We all have skin pigmentation. We all have the ability to do the devil’s bidding.  And not all white people are rich! People are people despite race, creed, religion, gender, and sexual orientation.  What make us different spiritually when it comes to our existence are choices.  Really, it’s just that simple.

Choices

People chose to be cruel.  And sadly they use race, gender, sexual preferences, religion, politics and such to carry out their unkind deeds.  They’ve rehearsed role-playing so much in their small minds that they seek the perfect conditions to be spirit exterminators.  It’s never hard to figure out their agenda after cavy encounters.  They’re usually standing/sitting with smirks of satisfactions on their faces.  They are usually braggers that are empty vessels.  And they try to fill their emptiness by insulting people publicly or privately as they exercise the power of choice.

Lesson Learned

Never stoop to their level.  Recognize mean-spirited people for who they are [empty vessels] and remove yourself from their presence [period].

Granny’s Wisdom: Do Not Wear Out Your Welcome

This is my second cousin, Felicia Hayes, and my grandmother, Queen Hayes.
This is my second cousin, Felicia Hayes, and my grandmother, Queen Hayes.

I wonder how many people have heard the phrase “do not wear out your welcome.”  Hum . . . I first heard the expression from my grandmother when I was young.

Back when I was once a kid, and a know-it-all, it seemed my late maternal grandmother would always say those words to my cousins, my siblings and me.  I’m not sure how my family members took her wisdom; but back when I was a child I thought my grandmother was old, uncaring, uneducated, mean-spirited, and truly out of touch with the mental and emotional needs of the young.  [chuckle]

I can remember as if it was yesterday sassing her for this or that.  But nothing stands out more than the time she would not let me go over to my cousin’s house as often as I wanted.   And, sadly, it was late into my adult years before I understood the meaning ‘do not wear out your welcome.’

As I’m looking back on things and reflecting upon how I dismissed her words of caution, I now understand why my life was filled with heartaches.

I hate to admit to myself but I deserved all the bumps I got from being hardheaded; and my self enlightenment really makes me feel foolish about things I had blame on others.

Well, any-who-how . . . It was by divine revelation I found the phrase in the Bible one day.  I was shocked!  It was amazing to read that God gives his children the same warning!

Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house– too much of you, and they will hate you. Proverbs 25:17

The message I get from this passage is:  don’t be so darn clingy!  Get a life!  Explore parts of your life without others.  Enjoy family when can.  And remember a bit of you goes a long ways.

I’m coming to terms with my granny’s wisdom.  My grandmother has passed but her words live on.  And each day that I live I think about her abrasive and unharness wisdom.  I’m learning she was indeed the smartest woman I will ever know and most of all she loved me.