Here’s another one of those post I blogged in April of 2013. And, again, it didn’t get published because I didn’t believe I was a good enough writer. I’ve made no changes really to my then thoughts. The words are what they are because I felt them then.
Well [pause] [sigh] before I started this post I tried to tackle another irrational comment that YouTube voyager said about Black women, but I became greatly frustrated. Not because I could not argue my point(s) but I need facts. Unfortunately the facts weren’t in our favor on one particular subject. At least not yet! Therefore, I have selected to discuss the roles Black women play as spouses and in motherhood. Given my personal and professional experience I can hold my own in speaking on Black women and their roles as suitable mates and raising children.
“We may not be able to prepare the future for our children, but we can at least prepare our children for the future.” ~Franklin D. Roosevelt
Honestly, I don’t know what rock this man crawled from under but he needs a realty check when it comes to discussing issues concerning Black women; and without question he surely needs to learn how to support his off-the-cuff theories with facts; because from where I sit he is very provincial in his comments. He and his bad advice to those that will listen to him gives me the creeps! He sounds like a Black Hitler in the making! Really!
Hitler was a horrid man! Horrid! He was a great orator. He made people believe they could fly when they could not. But he was a horrible man with a horrible plan! He made people kill their disable loved ones, in addition, he made people kill an ethnic group because each did not meet the standards or have the features of what he perceived to be the perfect German.
People! People! People! “Those that fail to learn history are doomed to repeat it.” Do you know who said that? I know who said those wonderful words but do you know? Because they are true! To me this young black man on YouTube is like Hitler. He comes across as a great speaker. He gives perception of being concern with humanity. But soon as he begins to speak his cover is blown once he starts attacking a gender group, a race, and or a specific color within a race. Frankly, he is worse than Hitler. At least Hitler was trying to preserve the best of his race, but this foolish man is trashing his own race without preservation and feels good about it! “He is a mad man begetting more mad men!” Can you tell me where I got that quote from?
Yes! I love to read and I enjoy old movies and I learn something new every day. And for the love of God . . . I don’t understand how any person can stomach to watch, read, and listen to words that kill the soul, the very essence of what makes a person human. I have spent enough time discussing that foolish man and men like him. Now I need to discuss why women of color make excellent wives and mothers.
At 17 years old I was too young for motherhood and marriage, however, I was not alone. My life experience was limited and so was the countless teen moms that were pregnant during the same time. Neither, either, had no clue we were not mentally and emotionally prepared for motherhood and or marriage; but we were either pregnant and or married with no life experience.
I believe becoming an excellent parent and spouse is a life skill that is taught and in my case spiritually supplied. As a young mom without a mentor I was an awful mother. As a young wife without a mentor I was an awful spouse. Sadly life failures taught me how to parent and how to love a man once he became my husband. Now that I have been through the stages of life I am prepared to meet the challenges of getting my children and grand-daughter ready for their life journeys.
Several months ago I told my grand if you sleep with a boy then you will have a boy/daddy for your child’s father. I told her she could not expect a boy to grow-up overnight because he got her pregnant. This is a big problem among teens and young adults with children.
Girls and young adult women want boys and young adult men to turn into father material after they get pregnant. Not going to happen! Why? Because each female group is trying to fill a void. A void that was caused by their parents failure to successfully grow up before starting a family. Sadly, each female group is trying to connect or bond with a male on the level of fatherhood. The more they try to make these unwilling boys and young men turn into their dream of what a dad looks like they will always have opposition.
Just because a man/boy whispers in your ear during an intimate moment about making you his wife or wanting you to have his children does not mean he is ready for fatherhood. It only means he knows how to get you going sexually! Because a responsible man will tell you up front what he expects out of the relationship before it gets started. And if a responsible man feels you are wife material he will ask for your hand in marriage before creating children.
Perhaps the following is something to redeem my youthful decisions to become wife and mother so young, because I saw my young husband as a fool:
“When a woman thinks her husband is a fool, her marriage is over. They may part in one year or ten; they may live together until death. But if she thinks he is a fool, she will not love him again.” ~Philippa Gregory
At the time when I became pregnant and a wife, I did not know how to cook for a husband or be a nurturing mother to a screaming baby. On the flip-side, my young husband did not know how to provided for a pregnant wife and later a child; worst he failed morally when he sought comforts in another young woman’s arms and they created a child. Are you seeing where I am going with this?
Everyone must start the lesson of becoming a good parent and an excellent mate at some point during their life. Inexperience does not mean Black women are not parent and wife material. It only means some Black women need help in learning the craft of nurturing their young and being their husband’s main support system. With that written I feel this is a good stopping for point today. Have a great one!
And remember Black women have it going on!