Day Two: The Misuse of The Word Sorry

Photo credit:  Annette Harrison
Photo credit: Annette Harrison

Today I lost my temper on my husband.  He began yelling back.  He yelling back at me only added fuel to the fire.  But I kept yelling.  And he kept ignoring me after he yelled sorry and then said, “I was only trying to help.”  Normally his words during a heated moment would make right the wrong but this time . . . this time I was fed up with his misuse of the word sorry.

Saturdays Funnies: Better Than Saying “I Love You”

Photo taken from:  http://www.elephantjournal.com/
Photo taken from: http://www.elephantjournal.com/

Marty wakes up at home with a huge hangover.  He forces himself to open his eyes, and the first thing he sees is a couple of aspirins and a glass of water on the side table.  He sits down and sees his clothing in front of him, all clean and pressed.  Marty looks around the room and sees that it is in a perfect order, spotless, clean.  So was the rest of the house.  He takes the aspirins and notices a note on the table “Honey breakfast is on the stove.  I left early to go shopping.  Love you.”

So he goes to the kitchen and sure enough there is a hot breakfast and the morning newspaper.  His son is also at the table, eating.

Marty asks, “Son, what happened last night?”

His son says, “Well, you came home after 3 a.m., drunk and delirious.  Broke some furniture, puked in the hallway, and gave yourself a black eye when you stumbled into the door.”

Confused Marty asks, “So, why is everything in order and so clean, and breakfast is on the table waiting for me?”

His son replies, “Oh That!  Mom dragged you to the bedroom, and when she tried to take your pants off, you said,” Lady, leave me alone.  I’m married!  ~Author Unknown

 

Throwback Thursday: Marvin Gaye’s Exceptional A Cappella Voice

It is so hard to believe this incredible talented man was shy.  Wow!  Right!

For me, after seeing this video I decided to research Marvin Gaye.  I wanted to learn more about the him the man [and not the singer].  There wasn’t much that had been uploaded on the internet about his personal life that I didn’t already know.  As usually it was mostly bad stuff.  To be honest, I was not surprised.  It’s sad how people are only interested in the bad things when it comes to the rich and famous.  It seems that people are never really concern if the person that is in an influential position is truly making a difference.  Well any-who-how . . .

I can remember hearing Marvin Gaye’s tantalizing voice being resonating from the speakers of my moms record-player.  I also remember how she would let his music play over and over for hours.  It was as if his melodies would transport her to a place that was only for her to enjoy.  I knew she had reached her fantasy destination when I would start misbehaving and she said not a word.  Talk about a little person taking advantage of the situation.

Let’s just say, not only did Marvin Gaye inspire many lasting relationship through his ability to connect lovers, but he saved me from getting many tongue lashings and spankings.  As my mother used his latest hits to transport her from the harshness of life.

So when I heard this sound track of Marvin Gaye singing a cappella, I was transported back to a time I enjoyed my mom the most.  Not only did I return to a time where I was allowed to be a mischievous kid; but, my memory allowed me to remember how my mother set the mood for her to enjoy an evening to listen to one of her favorite vocalist, that eventually became one of my favorite male artist.

Marvin Gaye’s music makes him timeless.  I realize the phrase “timeless” is normally used when referring to to music and not the artist; but it’s as if Marvin Gaye never got older than the music he recorded so long ago.  His larger than life performances captured on film still gives his craft the ability to make women swoon even after his death.

As I watched several documentaries about his life, I discovered he was a kind man.  He was generous with his fortune and he never met a stranger.  For a kind and generous man, Marvin Gaye had his share of troubles that later spilled into the public as his tribulations finally became the reason for his death. But despite his tragic ending he has left a music legacy that will be hard to meliorate.

Personally I have always loved his song “What’s Going On.”  It’s something about that song that reaches deep inside of my soul and makes me want to do what is right by humanity.  As a matter of fact I am sitting here jamming to the tune and saying aloud “what a man!”  And if you listen real close you can hear his Christian up-bring coming through this particular song.  For those of you that do not know Marvin Gaye or have not heard ‘What’s Going On’ I’ve inserted the video below for your listening and viewing pleasure:

The Prayers of Black Women: The Story of A Blind Girl

THE STORY OF A BLIND GIRL

Artist:  Unknown
Artist: Unknown

There was a blind girl who hated herself just because she was blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. She said that if she could only see the world, she would marry her boyfriend.

One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her and then she could see everything, including her boyfriend. Her boyfriend asked her, “now that you can see the world, will you marry me?”

The girl was shocked when she saw that her boyfriend was blind too, and refused to marry him. Her boyfriend walked away in tears, and later wrote a letter to her saying:

“Just take care of my eyes dear.”

This is how human brain changes when the status changed. Only few remember what life was before, and who’s always been there even in the most painful situations.

Life Is A Gift

Today before you think of saying an unkind word–
think of someone who can’t speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food–
think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your husband or wife–
think of someone who is crying out to God for a companion.

Today before you complain about life–
think of someone who went too early to heaven.

Before you complain about your children–
think of someone who desires children but they’re barren.

Before you argue about your dirty house, someone didn’t clean or sweep–
think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive–
think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

And when you are tired and complain about your job–
think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job.

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another–
remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down–
put a smile on your face and thank God you’re alive and still around.

Life is a gift – Live it, Enjoy it, Celebrate it, and Fulfill it.

Story and Photo Source:  Facts that will blow your mind

 

The Prayers of Black Women: Gathering the Pieces of a Broken Marriage

Artist:  Unknown
Artist: Unknown

A week ago I was in a conversation with a friend.  Immediately, I found myself praying silently.  His words were upsetting.  His confidence was frightening.  And most noteworthy was his self-proclaim spiritual position as an ambassador for Christ.  Scary!  His words were without a doubt bloodcurdling.

If he had not came across as an insufferable know-it-all I could have drummed up some sympathy and informed him that his words were discouraging to his listeners, as they stopped him from making a difference.  With retrospect I must write, arrogant know-it-alls most often do more mental damage than the person that is doing the abusing.  There are effective ways to counsel a person in crisis and using tough love must be implemented at the correct time, or else nothing said or being done will help hurting people move forward with living their lives.

My friend was conversing with me loudly.  He spoke fast.  And with the combination of speaking loud and speaking fast he held the floor.  There was no room to exit the conversation, therefore, I found myself being victimized by his bitter words that held no comfort.  Again!

To my dismay I am realizing that my friend set me up.  He knows my present dilemmas.  He knew I could easily discuss them.  Therefore, he asked conversation starter type questions that would lure me in and prompt me to begin discussing my personal life.  Honestly, he was looking for a conversation that made him feel good about himself.  As why the first question out of his deceitful mouth was “Are you at a drive thru?”  When I answered with a hearty “No” then he proceeded with “What’s going on?”  After I began to tell him of my husband’s legal problems he became immediately argumentative.

He said things to this effect:  What good is your husband to you?  Why don’t you just get rid of him?  I thought you were going to get rid of him?  You sound like my momma.  She is forever complaining about daddy.  We the kids have told her to leave him.  I finally told her stop complaining about daddy.  I told her I was sick of hearing it.

Wow!  Right!  After hearing the bitter words he and his siblings have said and are saying to their aged mom, I didn’t feel sad for me any longer.  I came to his mother’s defense with stating “It is not that easy to leave a person when your lives are webbed together.”  He said, “Yes it is!”

Really!  Personally, I feel a marriage should never be easy to end unless a person’s life or mental wellbeing is being threatened.

I feel people with nomadic character traits can easily leave their spouses quickly without just cause.  But a person that has been married for over 50 plus years just can’t jump up and leave a perceivably abusive spouse.  It is not that easy!  So today I would like to pray for couples that are having marital problems and have been married for more years than they can remember.

Lord in your Holy word you say in Genesis 2:18b, “It is not good that the man should be alone:”

Lord there is numerous things that can be considered as marital problems; therefore, today, I would like to pray for those that are unhappily married.  Can you please spend your vacation with these couples for as long as they need you to stay?  Can you please take your Spirit of Comfort to bandage wounds sustained by marital conflict.  Can you collect their many tears and dry their eyes with promises of a brighter tomorrow.  Can you fill their hearts with love, unconditional love for the spouse they find unlovable.  Can you give those they consort with a spirit of understanding?  Can you give each spouse your spirit of truth on love, marriage, commitment, and divorce?  Can you give them joy where there is sorrow?  And most of all Lord, can you give them peace that surpasses all mankind’s understanding where there is conflict?  So all that loves them will not be affected by their marital woes.

Lord your word in John 6:12 say’s, “Gather the pieces that are leftover.  Let nothing be wasted.”  Please allow these couples to gather up their fragmented marital lives and bring the broken pieces to you so nothing from their marriage will be wasted.

Sincerely your faithful daughter,

Annette