You’re Not Raising a Man For Her

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This post might get a few women upset.  But I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t piss a few folks off every now and again.

For me, a mother of three sons, the statement that makes my stomach churn as a parent and a woman is:  “I’m raising my son so he will be a good mate for a woman.”

No!  What they’re raising is the perfect man for them!

They didn’t find the perfect man so in their sick minds they are robbing their son’s from rights of passage.  In efforts of being deemed a good woman for tailoring their son’s to be a good man for a woman such as them.

They have no clue that children should be showered with love and understanding; as they learn about themselves and the world around them.

Romance between a man and woman is a sacred moment.  It’s a moment when two adults find common ground for love beyond what they first knew as children.  It’s the moment when love is transformed into emotional fireworks and passion outside of what a mom can give.  So, a man child should never be singled out and be fashioned to meet women’s criteria because his momma and or caregiver could not find a suitable partner.

Trust me when a man meets that special person she will have a few ideas of what’s romantic to her.  And in the end it’s not what momma want it’s what our son’s and their significant partner want.

Day Ten: She Was Not A Good Looking Woman

Loving Yourself QuotesA couple of days ago I was in the grocery store.  And!  Yes!  I was couponing BIG FASHION!  When I saw this guy from when I was young.  I first met him through my step-brother.  During that time they belonged to a local dance group.  Well anywhohow, the man looked at me as if he was trying to place my face as his wife caught my mutual gaze.  Rudely, I kept staring with amazement!

I know I should have cared and turned my focus elsewhere.  But the ugliness of his wife would not let me stop gawking!  I truly could not help myself!  Thoughts of days gone by were flooding my mind as my eyes thought someone was playing a trick on me.

I was in shock!  Absolute shock!  And then my mind finally settled and whispered, “He ended up with that!”

Moral of this story:

I had such a crush on that guy but he didn’t like me [sad face]!  And as a young woman back then rejection made me feel extremely ugly.  So, to my dismay, I took the rejections of young men to heart.  Sadly and eventually, I told myself I was ugly and my wounded spirit believed me.  Regrettably, as a young woman I lived a life of not expecting good things; because, again, I thought I was ugly and unworthy of love.

When I saw the now older guy’s wife, and once the shock of what he married quickly wore off, I was reminded of an old cliché “beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder!”

Therefore, my message to young men and women is this :  Never take to heart another person’s rejection when seeking romance, love, friendship and lasting relationships.  There is someone for everyone.  There are friends to be made and friendships to end.  There is love and forever loved.  Be patient!  Live your life!  Enjoy your life!  You only come this way once!  It would be a waste of your life to walk with your spiritual head flopping all over the place because someone rejected you.  Rejection is a part of life and it is a very healthy part of growing.

Quote for Today: Loving the Flawed You

Photo credit:  BibleDude.Net
Photo credit: BibleDude.Net

Let someone love you just the way you are as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as unaccomplished as you think you are. To believe that you must hide all the parts of you that are broken, out of fear that someone else is incapable of loving what is less than perfect, is to believe that sunlight is incapable of entering a broken window and illuminating a dark room. ~Ash Sweeney

Saturdays Funnies: Better Than Saying “I Love You”

Photo taken from:  http://www.elephantjournal.com/
Photo taken from: http://www.elephantjournal.com/

Marty wakes up at home with a huge hangover.  He forces himself to open his eyes, and the first thing he sees is a couple of aspirins and a glass of water on the side table.  He sits down and sees his clothing in front of him, all clean and pressed.  Marty looks around the room and sees that it is in a perfect order, spotless, clean.  So was the rest of the house.  He takes the aspirins and notices a note on the table “Honey breakfast is on the stove.  I left early to go shopping.  Love you.”

So he goes to the kitchen and sure enough there is a hot breakfast and the morning newspaper.  His son is also at the table, eating.

Marty asks, “Son, what happened last night?”

His son says, “Well, you came home after 3 a.m., drunk and delirious.  Broke some furniture, puked in the hallway, and gave yourself a black eye when you stumbled into the door.”

Confused Marty asks, “So, why is everything in order and so clean, and breakfast is on the table waiting for me?”

His son replies, “Oh That!  Mom dragged you to the bedroom, and when she tried to take your pants off, you said,” Lady, leave me alone.  I’m married!  ~Author Unknown

 

Quote for Today: You Can Say Sorry

Photo Credit:  Alamy
Photo Credit: Alamy

You can say sorry a million times, Say “I love you” as much as you want, say whatever you want, whenever you want.  But if you’re not going to prove that the things you say are true, then don’t say anything at all.  Because if you can’t show it, your words…don’t mean a thing.

Quote for Today: When Manipulation Stops

Photo Credit:  Everett Collection
Photo Credit: Everett Collection

 

Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you.  When you dare to reveal yourself fully.  When you dare to be vulnerable.
~Dr. Joyce Brothers

Love Is Not Perfect

Artist:  Unknown
Artist: Unknown

Love isn’t perfect.  It isn’t a fairytale or a storybook and it doesn’t always come easy.  Love is overcoming obstacles, facing challenges, fighting to be together, holding on and never letting go.  It is a short word, easy to spell, difficult to define, and impossible to live without.  Love is work, but most of all, love is realizing that every hour, every minute, every second of it was worth it because you did it together.  [Author unknown]

If You’re Happy Being an Atheist Guess What?

cross1I have this really cool friend on Facebook.  I have never seen her and of course she has never met me in person either but we are friends.  I cherish and respect her opinions about life and she gives me the same courtesy.  She’s an Atheist and I’m a Christian.  And we have never had disagreements about my choice to worship Christ or her choice not to believe in a deity.

Yet, the rights to worship or not worship seems to make most people go crazy on both sides of the fence.  I can’t help but wonder why?

And here is where I’m going to make a few people upset about the subject:

It’s not my job to police the world and set lives on the path of God.  And more so, it is wrong to push religion, faith and God on others.  People were given free will at birth.  Meaning we have the rights to follow God or deny His deity.

I’m a Christian and hardcore evangelism really upsets me!  I hate when Christian’s come to my front door and give me their “you’re going to hell for this reason spill.”  Honestly, I quickly shut the door in their faces.

No one wants to hear they’re doom to an eternal life of fiery damnation.  No one wants to hear they are worthless and unworthy!  Christ died for us all because we were worth the sacrifice!  And as I see things, had an Atheist been the only person on earth God would have sent Jesus to die for him/her too!

Now there will be those that will gasp at my statement “If you’re happy being an Atheist I’m happy for you!”

Only baby Christians or far left/right-wing Christians feel the need to invoke fear and force feed religion.  Spiritual force feeding is not showing a person to Christ and or God.

God clearly say’s in Jeremiah 31:3, “Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love; with loving kindness have I drawn thee.”  Hum. . . ‘with love and kindness’ has He made Himself known to those that choose to follow Him.  No where in that passage does it say club people over the head with the word of God and drag them to the altar to repent!

Truly, the God I worship is a loving God.  He is slow to anger and quick to forgive.  And he certainly doesn’t want His children to bully people with His word!  Therefore, when I meet people who don’t believe in Christ I respect their choice, because I want them to respect mine!  So if you are an Atheist and you think I’m going to try to convert you to my faith you are sadly mistaken.  And, again, “if you’re happy being an Atheist I’m happy for you!”  And!  Yes!  I’m a Christian!

 

Vocabulary Mondays: Commonsensical

Photo Taken From:  http://thegrio.com/2014/05/02/second-grader-handcuffedWord:  Commonsensical

Part of Speech:  noun

Meaning:

Sound practical judgment that is independent of specialized knowledge, training, or the like; normal native intelligence.

Word Usage:

The other day as I was reading headlines on Facebook I stumbled across a very sad story.  The story was about a seven-year old boy named Kalyb Primm Wiley.  He had been placed in handcuffs by his schools security.  Apparently the little boy had been picked on by his peers.  Feed up with the ill-treatment and feeling helpless the little seven-year old boy began to scream.  After he began to scream the unskilled teacher called for help to restrain the yelling child.  From the sounds of things the adults in charged didn’t try or was unable to rationally communicate with the child during his meltdown; therefore, he was placed in handcuffs until his father arrived.

When his father got to the school and saw his son in handcuffs he could not believe his eyes.  Now . . . I’m not saying white students are not mistreated . . . but a large percentage of white parents would have taken pictures of their child’s inhumane condition.  Most white parents whether they like their kid or not would have begun building social coffins for social antics they consider inhumane.  The photos taken would have been sent to an attorney, the school district superintendent, their state’s governor, their state’s senator, their city/town mayor, every newspaper in this country and all powers that be.  And in the end their child would receive a large monetary settlement from the school district for being publicly humiliated.  But so often when black students suffer at the hands of those that are in position of trust nothing is ever done.

I’m following this particular story.  I want to see how long it takes the school district in Kansas City, MO to change their policy on children and handcuffs.  Especially since those that enforce the rules are not commonsensical in character.