Should Women Date Men Behind Bars?

I swear I have the most interesting Facebook feed!  Laughter!  Today a page I follow posted the below question:

A second opinion: A female fans question..

Hi, I started communicating with someone that was locked up. From the time I started talking to this guy I notice that he has done a 360 (and i know this for a fact). First he was gang banging, always fighting and was mad at the world. Since I told him if he didn’t leave it alone, I was going to leave him. Since then I notice he is more into the bible. He left the gang, he have gotten his hs diploma while locked up, and became humble. When I get down, he builds me back up. And deep down in me, I feel like he is my soul-mate. I know our relationship isn’t base of of money or anything because I don’t send him any. Lol
I know I always hear about jail talk and etc.. and I never been a naive person. But I just want to be sure if it’s right and I’m making the right decision??

(This is for entertainment purposes & also to allow you to offer up your opinion on a real persons situation, please be respectful)

My response:

Photo taken from "The Examiner"
Photo taken from “The Examiner”

Okay the first sentence begs for the following question:  Why is this woman dating a man behind bars?

Since I can’t get a response I can only presume the woman has low self-esteem based upon social stereotypes, she can’t get a date within the circle she travels, she has poor hygiene, she does not groom herself, she either knew the guy before he went to jail or someone she knows introduced her to the guy, or maybe there are no single men in her area.  But, again, I pose the question ‘why is this woman dating a man behind bars?’  With that said I’m moving right along . . .

It is standard pattern and practice for people who are incarcerated to change their behavior and involve religion.  So the proof will be in the pudding once he is released.  And the question here is:  Is she willing to take a chance on a person that has the ability to be “Doctor Jekyll and Mr. Hyde?”

Once a gang member always a gang member.  At least that is how the hardcore gang members roll.  So him leaving his gang association is questionable, unless the dude is a wanna be.

Anyone with nowhere to go and have nothing but time can be very inspirational.  They’re locked up!  Hello!  Again, the proof will be in the pudding once he is released from jail.

Soul mate’s!  Everybody has bazillions of soul mates.  Laughter!  She just found a guy she clicked with because he needs her.  He is locked up!  He needs an outlet that connects him to the outside world.  Remember he is where he is because of poor judgement, and unless Jesus came down and did a total spiritual transformation I can bet you “dollars to doughnuts” this man has not changed.

And one more thing, he can’t love her because he doesn’t know how to love himself.



How Many People Know About the Public Safety Exception Rule?

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Well, I know I didn’t know about such a rule.  To be honest, until lately, I felt I was too busy to worry about public safety, especially since I don’t gather among the masses.  I’m sure I’m not alone!  However, my concern is how many Black people know of this rule?  Probably not many!  Laughter!

Personally, I feel Black people know little about the laws of their state, country, local and national government.  Most often Black people legal knowledge is acquired after the fact.  Sadly the information comes too late to help them keep their rights as citizens and freedoms paid for by the blood of others.  Once they returned to the mainstream of society after incarceration they cannot apply for benefits that aid in personal advancements; and out of frustration they return to a life of crime.

Has anyone every looked into the statistics for Black people incarcerated?  I have.  The numbers for Black men and women locked behind bars is shocking!  I feel a high percentage of Black men being incarcerated is one of the reasons why 70% of American Black women are single! 

Black women we must do something about keeping our men and women from lives of petty and grand crimes!

Do you realize many Black inmates could have been successful people?  These people could be individuals that give to society instead of taking from society if they were taught the laws of this country.  Yet, they are serving time because of ignorance.  Do not buy a wooden nickel my Black brothers and sisters!  Ignorance is foolish and can destroy a life before a person discovers what living is truly about.  This is why I’m posting information on current legal topics.

Staying updated with current events help a person to grow mentally.  Such updates help people become socially aware of what is taking place in the town or city, state and country they live in.

To be honest, I didn’t know about Miranda rights and how Miranda’s rights came into play, until the Boston Marathon bombing.  It was that tragedy that sparked my quest to learn about Miranda rights and the “public safety exception.”

I can’t speak for Black people as a whole, however, I can say from glancing over statistics Black people have a ways to go when learning about the laws of this country and their Constitutional rights.

I’m sure this topic is boring to most but to a person that is interested in protecting their freedom it is knowledge.  And don’t ever forget knowledge is POWER.

It is important that people learn of the ‘public safety exception.’  It appears our lawmakers are making continual changes to this rule.  The changes that are being made have nothing to do with Homeland Security and or terrorist threats.  Other words, the changes could become a ticking bomb to American society and those that find themselves breaking the laws of our nation, thus, forcing those that enforce the laws to waver in their decision if a crime has a political motive.  And in turn they must know what the motive is before they can invoke the rule; because of the procedure this rule can be applied to gang members and etc.  Once this rule is applied and a weapon or harmful materials are found the information gathered can be used in the court of law.  But the ‘public safety exception’ rule can only be applied if law-enforcement feels the suspect has information on the whereabouts of an item or items that can be harmful to the public.  After public safety has been secured then the suspect will be given Miranda’s warnings/rights.

It was hard for me to pare down the legal jargon about this particular rule because it is ever-changing.  And those changes will impact our knuckle-headed, don’t want to listen to the voice of reason, young Black men and women that are not ready to enter into society as productive citizens.  So as Black women let us do our part to make sure the numbers of Black men and women incarcerated decreases as we teach them the laws that govern this country.