Granny’s Wisdom: Do Not Wear Out Your Welcome

This is my second cousin, Felicia Hayes, and my grandmother, Queen Hayes.
This is my second cousin, Felicia Hayes, and my grandmother, Queen Hayes.

I wonder how many people have heard the phrase “do not wear out your welcome.”  Hum . . . I first heard the expression from my grandmother when I was young.

Back when I was once a kid, and a know-it-all, it seemed my late maternal grandmother would always say those words to my cousins, my siblings and me.  I’m not sure how my family members took her wisdom; but back when I was a child I thought my grandmother was old, uncaring, uneducated, mean-spirited, and truly out of touch with the mental and emotional needs of the young.  [chuckle]

I can remember as if it was yesterday sassing her for this or that.  But nothing stands out more than the time she would not let me go over to my cousin’s house as often as I wanted.   And, sadly, it was late into my adult years before I understood the meaning ‘do not wear out your welcome.’

As I’m looking back on things and reflecting upon how I dismissed her words of caution, I now understand why my life was filled with heartaches.

I hate to admit to myself but I deserved all the bumps I got from being hardheaded; and my self enlightenment really makes me feel foolish about things I had blame on others.

Well, any-who-how . . . It was by divine revelation I found the phrase in the Bible one day.  I was shocked!  It was amazing to read that God gives his children the same warning!

Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house– too much of you, and they will hate you. Proverbs 25:17

The message I get from this passage is:  don’t be so darn clingy!  Get a life!  Explore parts of your life without others.  Enjoy family when can.  And remember a bit of you goes a long ways.

I’m coming to terms with my granny’s wisdom.  My grandmother has passed but her words live on.  And each day that I live I think about her abrasive and unharness wisdom.  I’m learning she was indeed the smartest woman I will ever know and most of all she loved me.

The Prayers of Black Women: Nation to Another Unity Prayer for Women

Give ear to my words, O Lord, consider my meditation.  Psalms 5:1 KJV

Artist:  Henry Lee Battle
Artist: Henry Lee Battle

Lord, let every woman from a nation to another rise and be accounted.

Lord, let every woman from a nation to another see your love for her health.

Lord, let every woman from a nation to another see your beauty in her face.

Lord, let every woman from a nation to another have a voice to speak.

Lord, let every woman from a nation to another become a great achiever.

Lord, let every woman from a nation to another embrace her culture.

Lord, let every woman from a nation to another cultivate meaningful relationships.

Lord, let every woman from a nation to another realize her worth.

Lord, let every woman from a nation to another join hands in sisterhood.

Lord, let every woman from all nations love humanity unconditionally.

But most of all let every woman lift her voice and sing praises unto you!

Amen