As my son’s parent it’s my job to see that he gets the best start in life. And! Since I made such a mess of my life by making poor decisions when I was young and netted nothing financially to aid my children when it came to helping them enter into the world as successful adults, then my son’s student loan repayments became mines because his entry into adulthood debt free is my job as his parent.
It seems the negative word thug is always used to misrepresent the entire African American, Negro, or black communities. Honestly, people who distort racial integrity by misguiding readers, viewers, and listeners are worse than those they are writing or talking about. Such viewpoints are transparent as they are criminal acts of spreading hate.
As a humanitarian I find hate served on any platform detestable and a waste of time. So, therefore, today my vocabulary word is “thug” because I object to the ignorance of those that use it improperly. And it is such ignorance that keeps hate alive. And in keeping hate alive it becomes an avenue for exploitation by discriminatory acts when negative words are used to describe others by race, age, disability, ethnic, religion, sex, sexual orientation, and etc. Despite the worlds gratifying social exposure of discovering people are people, a pocket of people continue hate cycles for the sake of personal gain.
Part of Speech: noun
- a cruel or vicious ruffian, robber, or murderer.
- (sometimes initial capital letter) one of a former group of professional robbers and murderers in India who strangled their victims.
Last night I watched a History Channel special on the movie series Indiana Jones. The purpose of the show was to separate fact from fiction as it relates to the movie. While watching the show I was introduced to origin of the word “Thug”. When you think of a thug what image comes to mind? Is it a Black or Brown man? Is he iced out with diamonds and wearing baggy pants? Most people think of a thug as living in a poverty stricken urban area ( Ghetto) in the United states. The origin of the word “Thug” couldn’t be farther from its present meaning. The word Thug originates from an 800 year old cult called Thuggee in India. Thuggee were known for befriending travelers and killing them with the ultimate intention of robbing them. According to the Guinness Book of World Records, this cult is responsible for the death of 2 million unsuspecting travelers.
So the question arises, ” How did we get from Thuggee to thug?” The Indian Cult and its practices were popularized and introduced to main stream Western Culture through books such as Confessions of a Thug by Philip Meadows Taylor (1839). Thuggee was also popularized by British Culture as Great Britain Ruled India from 1858 to 1947. In a way it bothers me that such a negative word like thug is largely associated with Blacks when it should be associated with Indians. How is it that we get the bad rap when they’ve been “thuggin” for 800 years! If we’re going to play the name game then we need to call prostitutes Geisha Girls! If there are any words that you can think of that are unfairly associated with your or someone else’s culture, please feel free to comment.
WE ALL HAVE GLITCHES AND FLAWS IN OUR CHARACTER… Not one of us is perfect. — RICK RENNER
Larry, I don’t even know where to start this personal message to you about your negative comments towards black people, overweight women, people who have tattoos, and sexual preferences.
Therefore, I guess I will begin with your blog comments about black women and black people. (As a personal side note, actually as a black woman I thought your race specific comments were hysterically funny! I don’t agree with them but I do think they were funny. And I do mean they were entertaining).
I hate to bust your bubble but your words were not shocking. I have heard some black people privately state the same about white people, and so forth and so on. So when you openly expressed your thoughts on why you don’t date black women, or white women that have dated black men, I was not in shock. Mainly, because, as quite as it has been kept there are people from every race, class, and creed that feel the same as you. And sad to write, I was once among those people who felt races should not mix.
Therefore, I’m writing, “You go boy!” You took courage by the tail of ignorance and put your person in the line of social-fire! Gosh! Dude! What the heck were you thinking when you created your website looking for love!
I’m sure your lack of intimacy with a woman that loves being with you speared you on to create a blog that makes you looks like a total jerk-face to a lot of people. Surprisingly, as a woman of color, I see you totally different. I see you as a man that wrote what he felt to find conditional love. And it didn’t matter to you the feelings you publicly and socially hurt in the process, as long as you got the woman of your dreams. Right.
- It’s okay that you don’t find black women physically attractive.
- It’s okay to say you think black people are disgusting to look upon.
- It’s okay to say black people look like animals.
- It’s okay that you don’t want a woman who has slept with black men.
- It’s okay to say races should not mix.
- It’s okay to say you like everything pink on your mate.
- It’s okay that you don’t want an overweight woman.
- It’s okay that you don’t want a woman who has tattoos.
- It’s okay to call certain types of white people trash.
- It is even okay to express you don’t want a woman who has engaged in group sex.
- And it’s okay to date women without children.
Personally, I don’t agree with your views. I believe every person should live and let live (as why I didn’t and don’t take your comments about black women and black people to heart).
But the problem came once you publicly stated those things in search of conditional love. Most people, especially a successful business person, with an ounce of social decorum would have posted the positive attributes of what they’re looking for in a mate. Later within a private setting they would discard names, emails, and phone numbers of those that didn’t fit their criteria. Do you get the picture!
Instead, you wrote racial propaganda about why you do not date black women; and supported your views by stating non-blacks should not mix the races if it involves black people. Larry, your shallow statement “I think that all races were created equal” was an afterthought to soften the blow of your inhumane statements on people of color.
Don’t back down now man . . . tell the world how you truly feel about black folks!
Larry! Hello! What planet are you from! What planet are you living on! And how can you look at yourself in the mirror every day with your extreme racial views and say you are not a racist. Shakespeare once wrote, “This above all: to thine own self be true.” Larry, I hate to break the news to you buddy but your statements are racial; thus, painting you as a racist. And anyone telling you otherwise is blowing smoke up your heinie. Laughter!
Larry, as a woman of color, I truly wish you all the best in finding the woman you feel you deserve. And remember . . .
It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt. ~Mark Twain
Lord there are so many social issues to pray for that I’m not sure which one I should bring to your feet this morning. There is the issue of HIV among the porn stars. There is the issue of homosexual’s committing suicide because of personal fears. There are the social issues of gun control in America. Lord as you can see from my small prayer list, that could easily grow, there is a need for you.
Lord as you know I started this prayer last week after coming home from church. Pastor Robert Gelinas spoke on Your mercy. He mainly spoke from the book of Jonas. He talked about how people want your mercy but often hate when you extend the same mercy to those deem unworthy. With great surprise the end of his sermon took a tailspin. He held up a rock and said it represented people who had not forgiven themselves.
Lord as you saw I sat listening in bewilderment. It was then I realized I was Jonas. I had not forgiven myself for becoming a teen-mom. I had not forgiven myself for countless other things I had done with the life you gladly gave me. Lord so long ago, I realized I had wasted and was wasting my life. I’m sorry! Please forgive me for wasting the life you created before you formed it in the belly of my precious mom’s womb. Please stop me from living a life of regret. Please help me to live in the footsteps you ordered for me. Please help me to be a gift given back to the greatest gift giver. Lord, let me be a wonderful gift for you!
Lord this morning someone woke up unsure about life. Lord, I pray that you give this person a dream or a new dream with new hope. Lord, I pray that you help them to learn to put one foot in front of the other. Lord, I pray that you help them to understand “a journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” Lord, I pray that they realize the cliché I just used apply to all aspects of life. But more so Lord, I pray they understand “Great is Thy faithfulness.”
Lord help those that have contracted HIV. Give them your peace that surpasses all human understanding. Lord help those that have confesses in their hearts that they are homosexual. Lord help those that own guns and those that don’t own guns to come to mutual agreements. But most of all Lord help the world to know ‘Great is Thy faithfulness.”
- “Great is Thy faithfulness,” O God my Father,
There is no shadow of turning with Thee;
Thou changest not, Thy compassions, they fail not
As Thou hast been Thou forever wilt be.
- “Great is Thy faithfulness!” “Great is Thy faithfulness!“
Morning by morning new mercies I see;
All I have needed Thy hand hath provided—
“Great is Thy faithfulness,” Lord, unto me!
- Summer and winter, and springtime and harvest,
Sun, moon and stars in their courses above,
Join with all nature in manifold witness
To Thy great faithfulness, mercy and love.
- Pardon for sin and a peace that endureth,
Thine own dear presence to cheer and to guide;
Strength for today and bright hope for tomorrow,
Blessings all mine, with ten thousand beside!
- Great is Thy Faithfulness! (deondradeaderick.wordpress.com)
- Great is Thy Faithfulness (abiblicalworldview.wordpress.com)
- Great is Thy Faithfulness (wecanallbebright.wordpress.com)
- Needed Encouragement (pastorjfreeman.com)
- Great is Thy Faithfulness! (redeeminginfertility.wordpress.com)
- Great is Thy Faithfulness (hannahmking.wordpress.com)
Last Sunday I was pressed to write a prayer for my blog “The Prayers of Black Women.” I wasn’t sure of my spiritual request to God; but, I felt my prayer should have been about Black women.
[Please don’t stop reading. God is working in my life on my misplaced and misguided thoughts, and you will read the transformation soon.]
Any-who-how, I was proud of my “I’m Black and I’m Proud” prayer. Yet, I desired another persons opinion [preferably a black person]. So, I asked my son to come and proofread the prayer I had written.
Again, please don’t stop reading. God is working in my life on my misplaced and misguided thoughts about what it truly means to be a Black woman; and believe me when I write, my transformation is coming soon. Sooner than I expect!
For the past couple of days my soul has been unease about the image I’m projecting as a woman of color.
In my personal life I have an array of friends from all walks of life.
With great remorse, I have notice when I write I come across as a person of color that do not like people from other race groups. The image I’m projecting is totally the opposite of my character. Totally! And if you keep reading you will soon see God is getting ready to transform the way I have been thinking and writing lately.
Dialogue between me and my son:
Me: Can you please proofread my prayer?
My Son: Hum. Hum. Okay. (My son does not like to get involved in my writing projects. So I was shocked when he said he would help me.)
Me: So what do you think?
My Son: If I came across your blog I would not read it.
Me: Why? [I was shocked at his bluntness.]
My Son: Because it doesn’t have anything that could help me.
Me: Of course not! It’s a blog for Black women!
My Son: Isn’t this about prayer?
Me: Yes. But it is a prayer for Black women.
My Son: Shouldn’t prayer be for everyone?
As a former seminar student I recently realized several pitfalls of racism.
In 1 Corinthians 15:31, Paul writes, “For I swear, dear brothers and sisters, that I face death daily. This is as certain as my pride in what Christ Jesus our Lord has done in you.”
Though I am on a spiritual sabbatical, I am an ambassador for Christ; therefore, my color, race, culture, and personal beliefs outside of Christianity should die daily. But as it was, after finding myself upset with narrow-minded people I began a blog for Black women despite the need to encourage everyone.
Please understand, I am not a racist, my heart grieves for my race. With such sorrow I find myself disappointed with a group of people who keep allowing themselves to fall prey to the cruelties of society. My mind can’t grasp why these beautiful men and women continue to be mentally and emotionally castrated. It is painful to belong to a race and sit idle as it implode. Hosea 4:6 says, “My people perish for the lack of knowledge.
And because I don’t want my people to perish, sadly, my gender and my race became my cause to write. When in my case it should have been man’s inhumanity to man who made me want to make a difference by putting into action “the pen is mightier than the sword.” Because at the end of the day when all has been said and done we are still humans in need of love despite, race, color, culture, personal beliefs, personal choices, professional choices, religious choices, age and gender.
Until humankind understand that life without love and acceptance is all for not. We will continue to overlook the most important thing to remember about living: and that is when love transcend social boundaries it makes people do the right thing. In 1 Corinthians 13:2-7 Paul writes the below about love:
2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing. 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
About a week ago on a Facebook page I follow titled “White Men Who Love Their Black Women” the administrator posted the following:
I over heard a conversation among several White women today and they were talking about a couple of girls that didn’t seem threatening to them when it came to getting men or their boyfriends. Within the conversation they mentioned some things that they knew these girls possessed that made them seemingly, “less attractive”. The 1st notable remark that was made was the fact that one of the girls was heavy set—that almost automatically took her out of the game (according to these women). The 2nd comment was that another one of the girls was “universally unattractive” (according to them NO ONE would ever deem her pretty under anyone’s microscope). But the grand finale of a statement that was made that the last girl was Black—yes BLACK—that was why she didn’t pose a threat . These White women seemed to think that their White skin ordained them to be a peck above Black women getting White men just because they were White. My thing is this: I’m good as any girl of any color and I’ll be damned to think that a girl just being White and me being Black would take me away from even being considered an option of a White guy or for that, White men! Questions? Comments?
Due to time restraints I could not make a comment. So today I sit and write my feelings about the brutal honesty of those that publicly spoke on less threatening women when it comes to them dating and them maintaining marital security.
Love comes in multiple colors with surmountable reasons for loving. Only shallow people with low self-esteem will build outwardly with bitter words for mortar a false wall of security. The women gathered at this loathing banquet walked away more empty before they sat to fellowship. It is clear to see these women are not busy living productive lives. Surely what they say or think about women they consider less than is irrelevant to the cause of women of color progressing in life, personally and professionally.
Let’s speak truth: It is not women of color that seek tanning salons to darken their skin. Our skin tone is a birthright given to all colored women by God genetically. Subjectively, if I had problems with people of African descent I would never tan. The process of tanning would be in such a situation as hypocritical. Because to me non-colored people who have problems with Black people due to darker skin pigmentation are jealous, simple-minded, human beings that should have their mouths tape shut. I am only speaking about non-colored people who dislike for the sake of disliking and using color as a scapegoat. IT IS NOT LOGICAL TO TAN WHEN YOU DESPISE OTHER PEOPLE FOR NATURALLY HAVING WHAT YOU PAY TO ACQUIRE! Such actions provoke the question why are you making your skin the color of those you hate for having it!
As far as I am concern, I feel all people are beautiful . . .
And Black women do give to the rainbow of love. The only difference between Blacks and non-colored people are skin pigmentation’s. Outside of that! Nothing else is different when it comes to being human.
Sad to write, but unfortunately the White woman who made the harsh comment about Black women was correct based upon social stereotype. Therefore, at this point what is relevant and not irrelevant is how long it will take Black women to realize we must shift the way people think of us. We must show others as single people and as a group that we are worth dating and marrying (outside of our brown skin tones).
Women of color we need to change the dating and marring game to our home courts! We need to learn positive ways to effectively market us as people and a gender race group. We need to help other Black women that slipped through the cracks of life. We need to create dating and marring game plans that potential mates can understand; and in doing so we will inspire all men from all walks of life to crossover and play on our team as boyfriends and husbands. In addition, we need to first seek to understand so we will be understood.
I can only end that dating and marrying should be a personal choice. How a person arrives to dating this person or that person, and, or, marrying this person or that person again is a personal choice.
In my journey I have learned to cross over and date men from other races. To me the equipment all works the same despite hearsay! Laughter!
Have a great day! And remember Black women really do have it going on!