A couple of years back my husband and I loaned my son’s girlfriend five thousand dollars to purchase a car. We should have known when the first payment came due and she made no efforts to contact us or start repaying the monies she took that it would never be repaid.
Her actions aren’t unsettling as the actions of people that claim to like and love me are. Loaning her such a large amount of money purchased me life lesson’s I will never forget.
This is what I’ve learned:
Some kisses and hugs that come across as sentimental are fake even when they come from trusted family members and loved ones.
Not everyone rejoice when you strive for and gain financial security.
Not everyone wishes you well.
Promissory Notes don’t secure your efforts in retrieving monies loaned.
Only evil people pretend to love you,
and only jealous people are glad for your misfortune.
What happened to me was a Black on Black crime. She’s black. I’m Black. She took money she never meant to pay back.
Since that unfortunate moment I’ve learned about helping others, especially when I’m also in need of financial help.
The money she kept was money that would have paid upcoming and expected bills.
My husband and I paid an expensive price for the lesson I needed to learn. If there’s a silver-lining in all of this I venture to write, I’m the better for what took place because I learned many things about “man’s inhumanity to man.”
I first heard the saying “kick rocks” from my husband. He had gotten upset on several occasions with one of his family members. Later he would say, “They can go and kick rocks.” Not wanting to appear ignorant I never asked what the expression meant. Yet from time to time I would use the saying in similar situations.
The other day I posted something on Facebook about me learning of Jodi Arias and a friend commented “Thanks for keeping us updated! Would not wanna b out the loop on this, lol.” I tried to play the comment off as a jokingly jester but truthfully I wanted to tell him to go “F” himself. And had I known the truest meaning for ‘kick rocks’ I would have put the saying as my response.
According to the Urban Dictionary telling someone to go and “kick rocks” has several meanings. And even though there were three meanings each contained basically the same connotations. Apparently telling someone to go and kick rocks mean “fuck off.”
“I smelled the stink that only a street whore has after a long, busy night.” ~Iceberg Slim, Pimp: The Story of My Life
This morning as I searched for a positive quote for today I stumbled across a man called “Iceberg Slim.” His birth name was Robert Beck. Apparently he took the easy road to securing his financial future by honing the craft of manipulating others and becoming a pimp at the age of 18. From the sounds of things he truly capitalized on using the sexual gifts God gave to women to please their husbands for his selfish purpose.
After being released from a short stint in jail Robert Beck ended his pimping career at the age of 42. One would say, “Good ridden to bad rubbish.” But! No! He didn’t crawl into a hole underneath a rock and disappear from all good society! Instead he became an author and wrote about his exploitation experiences as a pimp.
What makes his career choices gut wrenching for me, as a woman and mother, is how the literary community sought to tell and sell his story. I just gotta ask why publishers and movie makers, especially black movie makers, sought to make money from a story that exploited women? And even though I know the answer, I still find the need to ask such a naïve question in a cynical way.
My heart goes out to the women he exploited. And my prayers are for the family members that lost loved ones that didn’t make it to tell their stories. And my soul cries for the women that were and are affected by his tell all book of “man’s inhumanity to man.”
Picture of the Week: Was featured on Interracial Dating with the below words:
When Keshia Thomas was 18 years old in 1996, the KKK held a rally in her home town of Ann Arbor, Michigan. Hundreds of protesters turned out to tell the white supremacist organization that they were not welcome in the progressive college town. At one point during the event, a man with a SS tattoo and wearing a t-shirt emblazoned with a Confederate flag ended up on the protesters’ side of the fence and a small group began to chase him. He was quickly knocked to the ground and kicked and hit with placard sticks.
As people began to shout, “Kill the Nazi,” the high school student, fearing that mob mentality had taken over, decided to act. Thomas threw herself on top of one of the men she had come to protest, protecting him from the blows. In discussing her motivation after the event, she stated, “Someone had to step out of the pack and say, ‘this isn’t right’… I knew what it was like to be hurt. The many times that that happened, I wish someone would have stood up for me… violence is violence – nobody deserves to be hurt, especially not for an idea.”
Thomas never heard from the man after that day but months later, a young man came up to her to say thanks, telling her that the man she had protected was his father. For Thomas, learning that he had a son brought even greater significance to her heroic act. As she observed, “For the most part, people who hurt… they come from hurt. It is a cycle. Let’s say they had killed him or hurt him really bad. How does the son feel? Does he carry on the violence?”
Mark Brunner, the student photographer who took this now famous photograph, added that what was so remarkable was who Thomas saved: “She put herself at physical risk to protect someone who, in my opinion, would not have done the same for her. Who does that in this world?”
Keshia’s choice was to affirm what some have lost.
Keshia’s choice was human.
Keshia’s choice was hope.”
When it came to formulating this quiz about who can say the ‘N’ word when rapping, I wish I could take credit for this thought-provoking question. But I got quiz from a group I belong to on Facebook. After reading the comments I thought it would be great to ask the public.
To his mother, you are the reason these types of guys keep committing crimes. Stop babying your son and being an enabler! Nobody goes to jail for tattoos. Stop with the sob story about the job and kid. If he cared SO MUCH about his job and kid he’d stop committing crimes. Let him serve his time and learn a lesson. You’re being unjust to your son by not letting him pay the consequences for his actions. Let him grow up and take accountability! Raise money for starving kids and stop conning people into posting your criminal sons bail.
Jeremy Meeks’ story is the tragic story about a young man’s life hanging in the balance. It’s a story that has left many American’s clueless about why his mother is asking fordonations to pay for her son’s legal expenses. It’s a story that has made women (and probably some men) make fools of themselves in social media settings. But what make this a truly sad story are the cruel words written to a mother that is trying to give her son another chance.
Let me first say this, I’m not supporting the cause but I understand a mother’s love.
I must admit when I saw his picture, I thought he was good-looking! His blueish-gray eyes go well with his caramel skin tone. His facial profile is defined with hard masculine outlines; while his lips are the right size of thickness for kissing all night long. He was indeed blessed by God to be eye-candy for the women. And, let’s just say the young pup took this old and very season woman back to her fun filled days of youth for a moment. But then reality sunk in and said, “Wait! There’s gotta be more to this man than just his looks!”
So, I began to research the newest pretty face to fame. And what I learned about him was this: he had a criminal past, he spent time in prison, he once lived in Washington, he has a tear underneath his left eye, he has all sorts of tats, he is married, he has a son, he got caught in a car with known gang members along with firearms and ammo, his bail was set for $1,000,000, his mom says her son has changed his life, he is innocent and was on his way to work.
Bail! $1,000,000! Wow!
Now why is his bail set for $1,000,000?!!! Don’t you think a million dollar bail is a lot of money for just a nobody that was on his way to work? Why was he driving a car with firearms and ammo knowing his situation? Com’on! This is no kid of teens! Don’t you think a man of 30 that has served time in prison is acquainted with the ways of the world? As why a logic person would ask why were his passengers gang affiliated? Why was he seen leaving a house that was under surveillance? And what was it being surveillance for? Whose car was he was driving? Because if the car belong to another, why didn’t he catch the bus to work? And what’s up with the teardrop underneath the corner of his eye? Why haven’t the name of his employer or his profession been released? I mean a list of questions could go on and on about his arrest. But . . .
What makes people feel justified in judging his mother? Why do people feel she’s the reason for his poor decision making skills at 30 years old? And what does the commenter mean by “these types of guys?”
A mother’s love is a mother’s love. It was created before children were placed into wombs. It has no boundaries on how it will protect its young. It sometimes goes without questioning and often makes mistakes in well doing. Honestly, it throws out logic when caring for its young. But nevertheless it is still a mother’s love.
I’ve been silent on Facebook for the past couple of days; but a friend posted this article of a fine young man I thought would make for interesting reading material. Not sure of his race but he does have some black in him. However, I guess someone has decided to do a fundraiser to pay this good-looking mans bail. His bail is set for $900,000! Wow! I know! Right! He is truly a bad boy indeed . . .
Well, I’m sharing the thoughts of another writer, that I agree with, about this young mans criminal rise to fame among the women because he is eye-candy:
You know there are some days where I’m embarrassed to be a woman. Today is one of those days. The mugshot of Jeremy Meeks has gone viral and the comments from WOMEN are vulgar and disgusting. On some sites his picture has gotten 45K likes and even up to over 200K likes.
His charges are as follows:
“The 30-year-old Stockton, CA convicted felon is being held on $900,000 bail for illegally possessing firearms and ammo, carrying a loaded firearm in public and criminal street gang activity. The specific charge is street terrorism.”
In addition to the comments on the picture, I’ve read comments of women stating the sexually explicit things they would do to him, how they love thugs and want to have his babies.
And we have the nerve to complain about the lack of good men! Apparently we aren’t looking for a good man. We want that thug love. That thug passion. The Bad Boy.
This is very telling of the state of mind that women have today. We are forward. We are thirsty. We are sexually aggressive. And of course this showcases another form of hypocrisy. We chatise Men for their reaction to women and their looks and here we are fawning over a criminal!
We’d be all over men if the roles were reversed. We’d call them dogs, berate them and of course remind them that this is why good women are being passed over but we are to busy passing ourselves to bad boys to notice the good men.
And if a criminal catches our eye and makes us lose control it’s very easy to see how we end up in dysfunctional relationships with multiple baby daddies. It doesn’t take much. Be attractive. Be a thug. Have no ambition but I’ll have your babies. ..then I’ll complain about the bum I laid down with knowing you were a bum when I met you.
Good men are an afterthought after we let the bad boys run through us. Give us children. Sit around our house while WE pay the bills. Get disrespected. Then after we have a high body mileage we want the good man. We want him to play Daddy to the children we had with the bad boy or bad boys. The same men we mocked we look for them to marry us.
So we look for the cream of the crop to wife up bottom feeders. And I say bottom feeders because we were fueled by our lower selves.
“One user has set up a Facebook fan page for Meeks, who is being held in the San Joaquin County Jail on $900,000 bail.”
This is what we’re willing to do for a CRIMINAL. ..but let our Baby Daddy be behind on his child support…we’d show him NO mercy.
Yesterday an article about a child molestation case came across my Facebook feed. I would like to write that the case is and was an isolated situation, but I cannot write such because sexual crimes against children are on the rise. And sadly the victim in this particular case was 4 months old when she became sexually exploited. Sickening! Right!
What logical adult would have sex with an infant? What rational human-being would want to have sex with children? And the most important question: What type of mother would give her permission for her child or children to be sexually used?
Anyone that would consider having sex and have had sex with a child has fallen away from the moral blueprints of humanity. Because crimes against defenseless people are horrible! But crimes against children are shamefully horrific!
And when a mother is negligent in protecting her young it goes against the laws of nature. Maternal instincts should always trump foolish thoughts! Maternal instincts should be so strong that women act like civilized “mama bears” when they feel their young being threaten.
And this ‘mama bear’ finds the story of Natisha Hillard‘s inconceivable actions as a woman and mother baffling!
Who is Natisha Hillard? Too me, she’s a beautiful young black female with a pretty name that has made one of the worst mistakes any woman and or mother can make (outside of killing her young). Her story is disturbing and very bone chilling. She sold her infant daughter to a man who has a nefarious appetite for infants and child pornography.
She met the creep online! And from the sounds of things she didn’t hesitate in selling him her infant for five hundred dollars. And worse yet, she stood by and watch the crime take place! To me her actions states, “She was also sexually stimulated by watching a child, her child, being molested!”
It’s a sad day for humanity each time people such as Natisha loses touch with what it means to be human.
Sexual crimes against infants should be punishable by death. I do believe in the state of Louisiana sexual exploitation of a minor 12 years old and younger carries a mandatory death penalty. And for sex offenders that do not live in Louisiana to ask the courts for leniency is asinine! Especially since they are not facing death!
Words of wisdom from an older woman to younger women:
Children are irreplaceable! The quality of life is priceless! And to take either or both for granted is wrong.
Sound practical judgment that is independent of specialized knowledge, training, or the like; normal native intelligence.
The other day as I was reading headlines on Facebook I stumbled across a very sad story. The story was about a seven-year old boy named Kalyb Primm Wiley. He had been placed in handcuffs by his schools security. Apparently the little boy had been picked on by his peers. Feed up with the ill-treatment and feeling helpless the little seven-year old boy began to scream. After he began to scream the unskilled teacher called for help to restrain the yelling child. From the sounds of things the adults in charged didn’t try or was unable to rationally communicate with the child during his meltdown; therefore, he was placed in handcuffs until his father arrived.
When his father got to the school and saw his son in handcuffs he could not believe his eyes. Now . . . I’m not saying white students are not mistreated . . . but a large percentage of white parents would have taken pictures of their child’s inhumane condition. Most white parents whether they like their kid or not would have begun building social coffins for social antics they consider inhumane. The photos taken would have been sent to an attorney, the school district superintendent, their state’s governor, their state’s senator, their city/town mayor, every newspaper in this country and all powers that be. And in the end their child would receive a large monetary settlement from the school district for being publicly humiliated. But so often when black students suffer at the hands of those that are in position of trust nothing is ever done.
I’m following this particular story. I want to see how long it takes the school district in Kansas City, MO to change their policy on children and handcuffs. Especially since those that enforce the rules are not commonsensical in character.
Now . . . I realize everyone online is not searching for cyber sex; but the dialog between the two cartoon characters renders the actions of a percentage of lonely people, a percentage of people who are predators, and a percentage of people who enjoy tormenting others to feel better about their life failures. And out of the three those that are lonely will push aside everything instinctively that keeps a person safe for the sake of having companionship. Thus ignoring the red flags, as they give unearned trust to people who could do harm to them and those they love.
Therefore, since a few people have forgotten the meaning for “trust” I have selected it for today’s Vocabulary Mondays word. In hope this blog post find its way to those that need reminders to stay safe when playing online with others. Because in all honesty no one knows who or what they are truly conversing with on the internet . And sadly so many people are forgetting the internet is the number one tool for predators to find their victims. Remember: