A Sibling’s Love and Sacrifices

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The story about the heroic actions of a brother named Bridger touched and will continue to impact my life.

I belong to a very large family.  My experiences with them leave me questioning the true meaning of family.
My mom died in May.  My world was shattered! 
The next thing I knew I had two adult women come at me sideways. They felt they had the rights to speak to me in tones of disrespect.  From their behavior and voices I became me, brutally honest.  I told them they weren’t my nieces.  Both women became besides themselves.  It was clear to see they felt they could reject but frowned on being rejected.  
For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.  1 Corinthians 14:33 KJV
It was apparent the younger sister was following the older sister as each put their heads together to bring down their giant, this giant, the one they created in their minds.  So I quietly stood my ground as each did what they felt needed to satisfy their delusional souls.  But!  It wasn’t the hate and hateful actions of the two women that throw me for a loop it was the actions of my oldest sister once again that caught me off guard!
They say the road to hell is paved with good intentions. Well! I tried to be understanding and put myself as the executor in my oldest sister’s position. And I kept her in the loop of things as I talked to this person and that person concerning our mother’s estate. Only for me to find out she is, as I suspected, part of the reason why these two out-of-control women have made it their objective to destroy me.
My mom had 5 children, three girls, one boy and one unaccounted for. My mom taught me to be responsible for and to my siblings. The older two children raised by my saintly grandmother never learned that lesson. They were selfish as kids, especially the middle oldest girl and they grew into selfish adults. Neither women have ever came to my aid when I found my back against the wall. Instead they joined my enemies to do whatever evil as my mom watched.
While writing this long ass story, I’m gaining understanding that my mom’s youthful decisions paralyzed her when it came to correcting her older children’s behavior. And, sadly, their jealous ways were passed onto their children.  And each are okay with their destructive behaviors when it comes to me and my family.
My mom is gone. I can’t exit the final act of our journey together until her estate is settled.  The life I crave dances behind curtains of unknowns. But one thing I know that’s worth the wait is cultivating stronger relationships with my children and friends.
Bridger’s story brings joy and sadness to my heart at the same time.
His sister is blessed beyond her ability to comprehend the sacrifices her 6 year old brother gave to protect her life.  Their parents have done a great job at teaching them about love and life.  Way to go!  
Every younger sibling wishes and long for the protection of the oldest sibling. In my case I didn’t get that. What I got was a life conviction of being tied to sisters that weren’t worthy of my loyalty and love on any level. Yet the love I have and held for the woman responsible for my beautiful life I love kept me trying to give birth to something not wanted.
My mom’s death released me from her one-sided mindset of what family should have been.  And as I read the below Facebook comment on Denver 7 ABC I grew new understanding about family, life and love:
Jéanne Botes Best brother ever! Not just for saving her, but for not abandoning her when things got tough and leaving her to face that horror alone. That’s the real meaning of family! 

Always Be Prepared – Day One

“The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today.” H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

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I’m reading COVID-19 is on the rise in the following states Alaska, Montana, Wisconsin, Idaho, Ohio, Nevada, Delaware, Kansas, Tennessee, South Carolina, Louisiana, Mississippi, Georgia, Hawaii, Texas and Florida.

If you live in these states you gotta be smarter than the average person [if you’re planning on surviving].

COVID is like a bullet.  It carries no name and you don’t know where it’s going to come from.  Your best defense is preparation.

Items needed:

  • face mask [Walgreen]
  • hand sanitizer [grocery stores]
  • disposable gloves
  • Lysol/Clorox wipes [Costco/Sams]
  • Lysol/Microband Disinfectant Spray
  • Vitamins D and C

Right now people are still rebelling against suggestions on staying safe.  Other words they don’t know “fat means grease” and this is your time to gather product.  Everyday retailers are restocking shelves with so much of this and that.  So!  Again!  Now!  Is your time to get two big packages of toilet paper and paper towels.  It’s a great time to get 5 cans of soup each time you go to the store, meat products, veggies, soaps, sanitizers and etc.  Other words buy what you’ll need!  And!  Don’t forget to purchase Tylenol and vitamins such as D and C.

Shop for these items often until your cabinets are stocked!  But!  Don’t use credit cards unless you’re planning to pay the full balance when payment is due.  Always use cash when stockpiling.

Shopping like this means you’re not clearing the shelves.  You will fly under the radar of limitations and should people panic again you won’t be among them.